By Ayasha Roberson

Facing The truth of your past allows you to heal and forgive yourself as well as others. Frozen emotions form deep resentments that keep you attached to your past hurts. Unless you release these negative emotions, they will cause you to recycle the same painful feelings and situations over and over again causing you to ask the question, “Why is this happening to me…AGAIN?”

Forgiveness is spiritual Self-protection. Forgiveness will enable you to divorce your Self from the shaming voices of your internalized fear-based ego thoughts. Forgiveness is a Self-healing technique that will help you to feel good again.

In addition to forgiveness, you’ll need to learn how to fill your emotional dependency needs. As you do this, you will actually begin to feel Self-empowered. This open up the necessary space for you to begin to identify more with your inner Self and less with your ego. As a result of shifting your identification from ego to Self, you can finally have a healthy relationship with your parents, family, and the world in general.

As children, we needed a parent’s love, nurturing, and emotional maturity to make us feel safe, sane, and secure. We are children who have gone from needing a parent’s love to needing God’s love, from wanting toys to wanting inner peace and emotional serenity. As adults, it is our sole responsibility to fill our own emotional dependency needs.

In order to spiritually heal, you’ll need to see the whole truth as it is without judgment, regret, or shame. Self-mastery is about honest, appropriate thinking, not pre-mature positive thinking. The trap that many people fall into is that they pre-maturely try to think positively to deny their pain. Many people who have had a negative, pain-riddled childhood are attempting to suppress their pain with pre-mature positive thinking chants such as…”I feel great!” when actually they are living lives of quiet desperation.

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About The Author


Ayasha Roberson started Urban SociaLites, LLC in June of 2010, she holds a bachelor degree in Sociology from Richard Stockton College and Masters Degree in Administrative Science from Fairleigh Dickinson University.

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